May You Live All the Days of Your Life

“It just happened so fast,” I said, as I walked alongside my brother last week. He stopped, turned, and looked me in the eyes. “That’s a good thing,” he answered.

Ten days after her diagnosis of metastasized lung cancer, David’s wife died. She suffered, but not for long.

When a loved one dies, we become more intensely aware of our own mortality. The Psalmist wrote, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12, NIV) When we pause to remember life’s brevity, we get our priorities straight. We live in the moment. God and love and relationships and personal authenticity matter more than. . . whatever else worries our hearts.

Do you love someone? Tell them. Do you hate someone? Forgive them. Do you have a dream? Take a step toward it today. Today may be all there is.

“May you live all the days of your life.” Jonathan Swift

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Beautiful Child, Beautiful Mom

I  have no words. Just watch.

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Blue Like Jazz the Movie FTW

I saw Blue Like Jazz, the movie loosely based on Don Miller’s book of the same name, this weekend. It did not disappoint. If I wasn’t broke, and strapped for time, I’d go see it again today. I might anyway. [Update: I did. Not the same day, but the same week. And I took someone else.]

Steve Taylor’s trademark satirical humor shined in his screenplay through snappy dialogue and clever imagery, with an over-arching feel that –as the character Penny put it–“We all have our crap.” We sure do.

Casting was believable, with Marshall Allman (from True Blood) as a young Don Miller, disillusioned upon finding out that his Christian subculture was not all he thought it was, experiencing the world at large and asking questions about God and faith for the first time in college. Justin Welborn (from The Crazies) nails the role as the campus “Pope”, an atheist driven to release souls from the tyranny of religion. Claire Holt (from The Vampire Diaries) plays Don’s activist friend with a heart for India, and Tania Raymonde (from ABC’s Lost) plays Lauryn, their lesbian friend, just trying to figure out her identity. Great music enhances the modern, energetic feel of this film.

Heed the PG-13 rating. Beside the language and self-destructive behavior portrayed, I think the concepts discussed are too heavy for younger kids to process on the level at which they are presented.

This movie is for Protestants and Catholics and atheists and agnostics, both gay and straight. It’s kind of a love it or hate it movie. I’ve read other reviews that argue that the characters are too stereotypically Baptist Christian hypocrites or too stereotypically militant atheist; but this story is based on Don Miller’s life. On his story. These are the kinds of people he encountered.

You’ll love this movie if:

  • you love honest portrayals of life and dialogue between people of differing faiths and no faith
  • you hate corruption and hypocrisy in the church
  • you recognize that no human is totally evil or totally good, we’re just all trying to fill needs
  • you want to make a positive difference in people’s lives

You’ll hate this movie if:

  • you cannot abide anyone who thinks or acts differently than you do
  • you really want to believe that the world is all black and white and nothing in between
  • you don’t want to interact with anyone who: cusses, gets drunk, uses condoms, disrespects religion, doesn’t disrespect religion, denies the existence of God, believes in God, questions God, has sex outside of marriage, is gay, doesn’t have sex outside of marriage, listens to rock music, goes to church, votes different than you do, etc.

So, how about you? Have you seen Blue Like Jazz? Did you love it? Hate it?

By the way, for you non-gamers, FTW means, For the Win. It’s a good thing.

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How Do You Celebrate Spring Holidays?

I rushed to get to church on time this past Sunday, thinking about pranks I might pull for April Fools Day. (Did I get you with the last blog post?) Only after the service started did I realize it was Palm Sunday. That means this coming Friday is both Passover and Good Friday, and this Sunday is Easter.

If the holidays snuck up on you, too, you might want to check out Speed Cleaning for Passover .  I’ve got the speed cleaning thing down to a science. Don’t judge.

As a Christian who celebrates Bible holidays, I love it when Passover and Easter overlap. Our family has plans for a fun and integrated weekend celebration. But for interfaith families, spring holidays can cause tension at home, as the holidays magnify our core beliefs.

Tips for Jewish-Christian Interfaith Couples at Spring Holidays

It’s not just interfaith families that stress, though. We can hope for a meaningful time so much that we put pressure on ourselves and our families to make the “perfect” holiday: the perfectly clean house, the perfect clothes, the perfectly prepared foods and decorations. It’s downright brutal!

Both Passover and Easter represent freedom and restoration. Remember not to get so hung up on customs that you lose the point of the faith. In a week, the holidays pass, and we’re left with the memory of how we treated (or mistreated) one another and ourselves. As the saying goes, don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.

I’d love to hear how you celebrate spring holidays in your home–especially if you’ve figured out how to do it without conflict or stress. Passover? Easter? Secular Spring? A little of everything?

You might like some of the following holiday sites/articles.

FamilyFun.go.com  One of my favorite sites for holiday craft ideas, recipes and printables

Alenkasprintables.com  These free little printable butterfly baskets and candy wrappers would make cute gifts for a Sunday School class.

www.calvarywilliamsport.com/activity-pages.html Printable flashcards for teaching the triumphal entry, death and resurrection of Jesus

Why Is This Night Different? Free printable Messianic Passover unit study by Karen Caroe

PreciousHolidays.org My holiday website

10 Ways to Remember Passover if You Don’t Celebrate

Jesus, Sun of Righteousness (Yes, S-U-N)

Passover Seder About Jesus? Since When?

Should Christians Denounce Easter?

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The Pagan Origin of Drinking from Cups

This Sunday, April 1, 2012, countless professing Christians will sit in small groups around open Bibles, sipping drinks from cups. They will drink from cups in their homes, and give training cups with lids to their small children. Some even have cup holders installed in their cars, and will drink from cups on the go. Most of these so-called Christians don’t even bother to question the Pagan origins of their behavior. They think because they actively worship Jesus and never consider any other gods that they are free from Paganism. Yet, what is that in their hands?

Thousands of years before Jesus was born, Pagans drank from cups as part of their worship rituals. In ancient Egypt, Pharaohs were worshiped as gods. The Bible records one such Pharaoh showing favor to his cup-bearer. (Genesis 40:1-43)

The Bible talks about cups in Genesis 44:5: “Isn’t this the cup my master drinks from and also uses for divination? This is a wicked thing you have done.”

As the evil king Belshazzar and his nobles, wives and concubines drank from ornamental cups, they praised the gods of gold, silver, bronze, iron, wood and stone. Even as they brought those cups to their lips, the handwriting appeared on the wall, foretelling the wrath of God which would come upon them speedily. (Daniel 5)

You may think, “But I don’t worship Pagan gods. I just drink from cups.” No matter. You must honor the origin of the cups—how they were used in Pagan worship by some people at some point in history. Come out from among them and be separate!

When God raised up an army for Gideon, he called out the few hundred that drank water from their hands, lapping like dogs. God used this elite group to take on the armies of the enemy. (Judges 7:5-7) Ask yourself: Are you faithful enough to drink from your hands, lapping like a dog? Are you holy enough to separate from your friends and family members who insist on using cups? Or will you continue your Pagan worship of drinking from cups, and invite the wrath that came upon Egypt and Babylon?

I know my answer.

—OK, peeps. Confession time. This is an April Fool’s Day gag. Did I have you going? Let’s hope no one else can sway you with the same foolishness. Hugs, Kathryn—

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Levity: It’s Not Just for Levites on Purim

Tonight at sunset begins the Jewish festival of Purim. Let me open with a joke. Here’s an oldie but a goodie:

A devout Jew goes to his rabbi for advice. “Rabbi,” he says, “I’m having problems with my son. I brought him up in the Jewish faith, sent him to Hebrew school, threw him a big Bar Mitzvah party, and now he tells me he’s become a Christian!”

The rabbi answers him, “It’s funny that you should come to me. I also brought my son up in the Jewish faith. I sent him to Hebrew school, and I threw him a big Bar Mitvah party. He, too, became a Christian.”

The man is astonished. “What did you do?” he asks.

“Well,” says the rabbi, “I prayed to God.”

“And what did God say?”

“God said, ‘It’s funny that you should come to me. . .’”

Get it? Get it? Think about it.

To Drink or Not to Drink: That is the Question

Now on to more Purim-y matters. The Talmud (not the Bible) tells us to drink to excess on only one night of the year: Purim.

Meghilla 7b says, “A person is obligated to drink on Purim until he does not know the difference between ‘cursed be Haman’ and ‘blessed be Mordechai.’”

Maimonides wrote: “That one should …drink wine until he is drunk and falls asleep from drunkenness” (Mishneh Torah, Laws of Megillah, 2:15).

At all other times, Judaism forbids drunkenness. Why the command for drunkenness on Purim? Because Purim is about revealing hidden things. Just as Esther’s true identity was hidden, and Haman’s true character was hidden, we hide our true intentions behind a mask of social refinement. Purim is the one day of the year to strip away all pretenses and reveal to ourselves who we really are beneath the self-control of rational thinking. Drinking doesn’t bring about a new personality. It only reveals what was there all along (This means you, Mel Gibson).

The point here is that drunkenness during Purim is a legitimate doctrine. It’s not just an excuse for bad behavior, as some people charge. And there is a vast difference between drunken misbehavior as a way of life, and one drunken evening for the purpose of growing closer to God.

Of course, many, many people, both Jews and Christians, celebrate Purim without getting drunk, and believe that drunkenness is wrong for any reason—even if it brings about unrestrained joy.

From a practical perspective, I can’t help but think that there is a fine line between getting drunk enough to “fall asleep from drunkenness” and getting drunk enough to die from alcohol intoxication or asphyxiation. That line can’t be figured accurately by one who is already impaired by alcohol, and who is not a regular drinker.

I believe that whether you drink much, drink little, or don’t drink at all, God sees your true self, and he weighs the motives of your heart. I personally choose not to get drunk for Purim. What about you? Do you celebrate Purim? Are you planning to get drunk tonight? How do you strip away pretenses and get real before God and others?

Freebie: For a free MP3 audio download of the book of Esther read by Aviad Cohen, from the Complete Jewish Bible, go tohttp://aviadcohen.com/music.cfm and scroll to the bottom of the page.

See also: Hammantaschen Recipe for Purim

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So Catholics Are Just Like Christians, Right?

“So, Catholics are just like Christians, only they add stuff. Is that right?” I stared at my teenager. Was she joking?

Angela understood the concept of Christian unity; but she lost an important specific—Catholics are Christians. Her dad and I taught her this, but even the most diligent teaching gets derailed, if we’re not diligent to reinforce it.

I understand how she got confused. I hear the same anti-Catholic rhetoric that she does. From “it doesn’t take all that to please God,” to Catholicism as “the Pagan whore of Babylon,” and a “Godless theology of hate.” [From, "Should Christians Support Israel?", John Hagee, 1987]

As far as Catholics adding things, I told my daughter, there are striking similarities between Catholic and Jewish traditions. The Catholic 40 days of Lent, for example, mirrors the Jewish 40 days of Teshuvah. Catholics say that their faith traditions were handed down directly from St. Peter, a Jewish disciple of Jesus. The similarity in traditions makes a good case for that.

Protestants say that Catholics add stuff. Catholics say that Protestants take away stuff. For all of our differences, however, we agree on one fundamental truth: Jesus is the Son of God.

The Bible says, “If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God.” (1 John 4:15, NIV)

No matter how you slice it, that makes Catholics and Protestants brothers and sisters in faith.

“Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.” (1 John 4:20-21, NIV)

After that incident with my daughter, I turn to the calendar to remind me to reinforce unity through education. We’re using the opportunity of the Lenten season to explore the rich heritage of our Christian faith, and the multitude of directions that God leads his children within that faith. Do you teach your children to embrace believers who follow traditions and practices that differ from your own? Or do you teach your kids to separate from them, because they are not real Christians? Or is it somewhere in between?

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